DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
- KNOW HOW TO
- APPLY COMPASSION
By Nhat Quan
Even though in today's society you are living together,
there is always quarreling, conflict and never being sincere
with each other. On the contrary, you still want to suppress
and destroy each other. Therefore, your life seems to lose
more and more control. With the whirlwind of modern life,
many times it seems like you have become a robot, your
temperament becomes rough, full of stress and sadness, even
cold and very cruel. The main cause of these sufferings is
not because of the life of modern society, nor because you
have not yet reached the era of happiness, but because your
heart is becoming more and more dry, and your energy is
becoming increasingly dry, love is exhausted day by day.
Instead, the ego citadel is built delicately and firmly.
That causes division and fragmentation, and life cannot be
Society, or human life, is a mixture: Some are good, some
are bad... you should not only know the good and ignore the
bad. So if you have returned to Buddha, then accept Demons
as well. And sometimes when you welcome the warm wind, you
also have to open the door of your soul so that the cold
wind of winter can enter. You should accept everything and
adapt to everything. Don't separate, don't deny because
everything is closely related to each other. If you refuse,
you unintentionally give up something in your heart. So,
face all your situations and share, sympathize, and
transform until all are peaceful. Accepting, loving, and
applying compassion to your life is the only way to relax.
Every day you come into contact with life, you have many
opportunities to experience love and apply compassion. Such
- Pick up a sharp rock or a thorny branch in the middle of
- Comfort or sympathize with someone who is desperately
- Share or help a few coins with people in difficulty, and
be happy with everyone,
- Be patient when being scolded by others, use peaceful
words to exchange and talk, etc.
Those are actions that require your compassion to be used a
lot every day. The Buddha's disciples have a tradition of
loving people, animals, and plants through acts of
listening, loving speech, being vegetarian, releasing
animals, spreading loving kindness, cultivating mindfulness,
and doing charity... Those are wonderful images beautiful in
compassion. So no matter whether you are idealistic,
materialistic, conscious, or spiritualistic, if you cannot
experience love in life, no one knows whether it is
practical for this life or not. Therefore, you are the one
who learns the teachings of liberation, the one who will
devote his whole sincere heart to the happiness of others.
When you become aware of this, it's not somewhere strange
but in everyday life, and most of it is created by you. So,
you should make an inner revolution to change everything, by
applying compassion to your life thoroughly. For you to see
the meaninglessness of being conservative and selfish open
your heart, and start on the path of dedication, that is
opening a compassionate mind, applying a compassionate mind.
There is only one meaningful action in this fleeting, dusty
world: Open your heart of love and do something to help
sentient beings escape suffering. Just a compassionate
embrace can help a desperate stranger find a reason to live.
Love is very necessary for this life.
To have compassion, you do not need to apply any mysterious
or sublime method, you just need to apply your inherent
compassion to transform from a polluted mind to a pure mind.
Be aware of the life around you and meditate to spread
compassion to accumulate loving energy. That is the easiest
and most practical way to open compassion.
So thank life, everyday life for giving you so many
opportunities to love. Every sadness, joy, sorrow,
resentment, and loved one allows you to learn about
yourself. Truly, life is a precious gift for those who know
how to enjoy and live meaningfully. So you don't need to be
afraid of the evil surrounding life, you're just afraid that
you won't be able to sanctify life. If you have mindfulness
and awareness, when you receive a small favor, you must
appreciate it and sincerely thank it.
Once you no longer think much about self-interest, think
much about your ego, on the contrary, you know the goodness
and beauty of others, then the whole life is a beauty. Thank
life every morning when you wake up you have a new day to
love. It's also about opening the door and being in contact
with life, but people with dark minds and lives, when they
open the door in the morning, don't have the feelings you
think. Therefore, without the qualities of beauty and
sensitivity, there is no reason for you to live happily.
Therefore, expanding your heart and applying love completely
to life is the door that opens the horizon of happiness.
Every area of life has certain difficulties and crises, but
ordinary people only solve them on the external level. Here
you try to learn and put it into your heart to solve some
problems of modern life. First of all, you are aware that,
although society is built on a high level of production,
when you live in a communal living society without love as
the basic foundation, even if you have love if you don't
know how to apply it to life, many conflicts and problems
will arise. Such, that society cannot be just and civilized.
History has passed with many prosperous and declining
dynasties. The most prosperous and peaceful dynasties are
those built largely by applying love, solidarity, and
justice to life. Each individual is a member of society, no
one can live separately. Whether directly or indirectly, the
mutual nourishment between individuals and society still
takes place. Society has many aspects to help individuals
survive and develop. It can be said that love is the most
important aspect of human happiness. At that time, Indian
society was divided into four distinct classes, but the
Buddha believed that it was impossible to divide classes and
- Love is the bond between people, no class in tears are
salty, in drops of red blood.
This proves to be the number one social spirit of Buddhism.
Buddhism has a very strong human nature. Buddhism believes
that if you do not live peacefully and happily in this human
world, then when you die there will not be a world for you
to live happily. Buddhism's ideal social model is to
establish a pure land on earth. The pure land of humanity is
achieved through transformation from the impure land, it is
built on the basic material of selflessness and altruism.
The reason there is conflict between individuals and society
is because your individuals conflict with you. Society is
your external expression. Therefore, if you want to reform
society, the first thing is that each individual must reform
themselves. Talking about society means talking about
citizens because many citizens form society. Citizens and
society are synonymous, good citizens mean good society and
Buddhism never advocates having religious authority and
never participates in politics with the spirit of control,
command, or opposition to anyone. Because no matter who you
support or oppose, it's all nonsense. You must fight against
yourself first to find harmony between humanity, the
individual, and society. Because if you find yourself in
conflict with the great community, you conflict with
yourself first. If you think like that, then perhaps wars
and invasions will not happen, and wars called for justice
will not happen either. Buddhism believes that there is no
such thing as righteous anger. If you take action, it will
only be out of compassion and peace of human to ring the
bell to awaken the conscience of the dark forces to change
their minds. This is evidenced in the non-violent spirit of
Buddhism from ancient times to the present. A typical
example is the non-violent spirit of Bodhisattva Quang Duc
in Vietnam, and Saint Gandhi in India. Therefore, if the
person in power does not have the goodwill to take care of
the citizens and lead the country to develop, but only knows
how to take advantage of the power and satisfy their
animalistic desires, it is very dangerous. Because politics
can use all tricks to kill people easily. You should note
that in the human world, there is a saying:
- When things reach their extreme, there will be changes
When people reach their extremes of suffering, there will
certainly be resistance.
The idea here is that politicians should build peace and
happiness on noble spiritual and moral principles. You
should not build many prisons but rather build moral and
spiritual schools, which is a broad-minded plan for
long-term happiness. Because criminals in prison are not
criminals but patients. They were mentally ill, their hearts
were fueled by greed, anger, and ignorance, so they became
criminals. Always thinking about peace and happiness for the
people is the great responsibility of politicians. Every
citizen is grateful for that effort. Therefore, politicians
must know how to reflect, listen to the suffering and
difficulties of the people, and know how to apply compassion
to minimize corruption, bribery, bureaucracy, and arrogance.
According to the above principle, the value of all living
beings is equal in terms of their true nature. Every living
being is an element in the common home of the universe.
Thus, you must relax and harmonize with the universal rhythm
of life, you must see everyone as closely related to each
other. No individual can stand alone outside the human world
and survive. Because if one part of your body hurts, the
balance of the whole body will be thrown off. To
misunderstand a separate self is to create an ulcer in the
entire universe. The mistake of clinging to a non-entity is
the cause of violating all cause-and-effect relationships
between things. Once you understand this, you must know what
to do to protect the environment most harmoniously. It is
natural for you to unite with each other in society. Not
only that, you need to protect creatures, animals, and
natural resources so that ecosystems can be balanced.
Currently, several animal and plant species have become
extinct or are in danger of extinction, and resources are
nearly exhausted. The air is seriously polluted, and this
has reached a red alert level. Humanity, more than ever,
must propose a direction for education on environmental
ethics and must join hands to jointly preserve the world's
home. Otherwise, adverse effects of the earth such as
diseases, and natural disasters... will strike humans.
Therefore, love, compassion, joy, and renunciation according
to Buddhism are the four strengths that build understanding
between people and people, between people and animals.
Instead of launching wars to destroy people, animals, and
nature, you should love each other. You should apply
compassion to treat each other in peace to build a good life
on earth, where you live, for now, and for the future.
Nowadays, many situations do not allow you to naturally
express your emotions on the outside, instead, you have to
be suppressed and forced inside, disturbing your psychology
and physiology. Like before a crowd, you're angry but don't
dare to scream to relieve your anger. On the contrary, if
you swallow your anger inside, you will unintentionally burn
yourself and injure your body. The medical industry has
found that each type of germ has a unique identity with a
certain part of the human body, such as tuberculosis germs
that often like to gouge the lungs. On the other hand,
psychology tells you that your emotions have a specific
sympathetic response to a certain organ in your internal
organs. Positive mental health can improve physical health.
A refreshing spirit brings a feeling of health and freshness
to the body, through which you can see university research:
- Harvard University did a 30-year study and showed that
people with an altruistic lifestyle are a factor
contributing to a good spiritual lifestyle.
- Surveyor Allan Luks also surveyed thousands of people who
volunteer and help others and said that 90% of them are
enthusiastic, positive, and live happier...
- Another study by James House of the University of Michigan
found that regularly volunteering and interacting with
people in warm love will increase people's longevity and
- Psychologist David McClelland of Harward University
concluded that people who are excited by feelings of love in
their hearts have increased levels of globulin in their
saliva, this antibody helps the body fight against diseases
and respiratory infections.
In From Medicine to Meditation, Osho says:
- People who live in a community, with an open and
comfortable heart, are less likely to have heart attacks,
less high blood pressure, less cancer, less madness, and
You see this in free societies, when individualism is
promoted and protected, the rate of people with heart
disease, high blood pressure, and suicide is increasing. But
in a highly communal society, you rarely see this disease,
only a few who are educated and have a separate, independent
lifestyle get it.
In short, no one denies the value of science that people
apply to all aspects of life to bring comfort to people
today. But here you still find imperfection in aspects, of
course not trusting the values of science to find true
happiness. The crisis in all aspects of life is largely
because you have not yet understood and resolved it
originally. Economic imbalance, political bias, buying and
selling officials, corruption... are the cause and result of
all conflicts in the world today. Most of the causes of
conflict, crisis, and imbalance come from initial
misdirection. Therefore, ambition, selfishness, prejudice,
especially lack of selflessness, altruism, lack of love, and
failure to apply love in life, life will become increasingly
constrained and fragmented. So the happiness that you are
trying to find is just a flickering image amidst countless
confusions of reason.
Every crisis problem cannot be solved only externally but
needs to be resolved internally. No one can run to find
happiness anywhere without stopping all ambitions, without
knowing how to listen to the heart, expand love, and
properly apply love in life. Expand your love and sharing
with people and nature, and then all problems will easily
So you should listen and contemplate the wholeness of life.
Turn to the inner factor, and apply love in life, you will
find good harmony between the individual and society,
between the individual and the group.
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