DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
- THE STYLE OF THOSE
- WHO KNOW HOW TO PRACTICE
By Nhat Quan
of Buddhism always uphold the humanity of human beings and
always guide people to develop their wisdom and understanding
to behave so that their life is good. So the practice of
Buddhism is essentially the cultivation of wisdom and
understanding of your own life.
approaches life in many different ways. But no matter how
different it is, it doesn't pay much attention to bigotry and
helps people practice renunciation, that's the style of people
who know how to practice.
life, you need inspiration. In Buddhism, too, the inspiration
or motivation for practicing the monastic style or
renunciation is bodhicitta. The core of Mahayana Buddhism is
compassion and wanting to help others. So whether you are a
businessman, a doctor, or a monk, you need to have a kind
heart. You benefit the world by doing your job well:
- Monks spread
morality for people to follow
specialize in healing,
- Farmers grow
specialize in teaching...
you do, it is important to have a good style and behave with a
good and pure motive, as long as all your actions are directed
towards the benefit not only for yourself but for many people.
others, not harming anyone is okay. However, because your mind
is still stubborn and clingy, you are busy pursuing external
goals such as:
- Own houses,
cars, money, fame.
Even if you
have a seemingly perfect life on the outside, you still feel
like something is missing. Because you have focused on
dominating and choosing the wrong target. So the style of the
monastic is considered complete, who not only prays for outer
material wealth, but you also need to direct your mind towards
inner spiritual wealth. According to the Venerable One's
guide, there are six means by which you can achieve inner
The mind and
state of anger, when you are still an ordinary person, it is
impossible not to have anger. Knowing that, so first, you need
to learn how to control anger. Because when anger and anger
arise, it will bring many bad consequences, making you unable
to have peace in life.
not being stingy, avaricious
need to get rid of the stingy, avaricious mind and at the same
time help the mind to become generous by the practice of
giving, through which you first practice giving of the
superfluous. To accomplish this first turning point, you must
always keep in mind:
accumulated wealth and property, until your death, you can't
take it with you, so you have to leave it to someone else.
this to overcome the mind of mediocrity is wisdom.
looking forward and looking back
You must look
forward to following the example of those who have achieved,
and to feeling grateful and appreciative of what has been
achieved and is. But don't compare your success with others,
because doing so will always make you feel inferior.
Therefore, the venerable ones often advise, you should look
behind, and look back at the life journey you have gone
through, to have more energy to continue moving forward.
Because if you
only know how to look up, you will get bored easily, and you
will never know when you will be like someone. Of course,
sometimes you need to look up, but you need to know how to
appreciate and be grateful for what you have, you have
achieved, because it is a source of encouragement for you to
4- There is no
compare yourself to others, it's easy to lose confidence.
Jealousy is extremely subtle, difficult to recognize, but it
is always present in life. For example, when you see other
people succeed, even though you don't necessarily want to
hinder them, you actually find it difficult in your heart to
be happy with their success. Or you may feel sorry for
yourself. All of this comes from jealousy, envy sometimes in
its gross form, sometimes in its subtle form. So you should
not be jealous, but be happy.
5- There is no
The reason for
having pride is because you always want to take credit for
yourself, when you do something, you often think you are good,
but when it comes to difficulties and failures, blame the
makes you blind, not considering where success comes from and
where. Of course, you can succeed by your own efforts, but
besides that, there is always the help of many other people.
Sometimes you don't realize this, pride makes you forget
everything. This makes you abuse your power or feel vulnerable
or insecure. Sometimes, the label of success is too great,
beyond capacity, especially when relationships are mainly
based on power and money, without a truly sustainable nature.
When you lose fame and money, you become empty-handed.
your true self
You should not
identify yourself with success or failure. This makes many
people, when they are at the peak of success, conceited, and
triumphant. But, suddenly experience failure, become
desperate, and even commit suicide. The reason is that their
ego is too big, too attached to success or power.
everyone wants to make a name, everyone succeeds but no one
wants to fail, and everyone wants to last a long time on this
earth. Therefore, the health sector and agencies involved in
taking care of your life are conscious and have a plan to make
your health more and more advanced, and life expectancy is
everyone's wish and yours too. But remember that when you
judge someone's style, you should not base it on his life
expectancy, not on the amount of time he lived, but mainly on
the reality of how he lived.
life is only lived once and it passes very quickly even for
the longest-living person. Therefore, how to live in a good
style is really useful to life and society. There are people
who don't live long but leave behind a lot of precious values;
Their names are preserved for generations to come. Those are
- Better to
have a glorious minute and then suddenly stop
than glimmering for a thousand years.
But there are
also many people who live a very long time, but the days of a
truly meaningful life are few. It is clear that lifestyle and
quality of life are really important and are the basis for
evaluating a person's life.
must know, if you lose money, you can make money back, if you
lose a car, you can buy a car again, but if you lose time, you
can never get it back. Wasting time is losing everything. Time
is a straight stream, never stopping and never turning back.
Every opportunity, if missed, is lost.
a good lifestyle, unable to do anything for life for
themselves, still rushes to old age. Time is a steady stream,
cold, never waiting for the delay. As a person who knows how
to practice, you should cherish your time, especially in this
advanced age, the intellectual economy has made time
priceless. Boeing makes one plane every day. The jet plane
flies at 300,000km a second faster than the speed of light… So
all your clunky expressions, and slow, and turtle-like
practices seem out of place in the current global trend now.
A person who
does not have a decent lifestyle, letting time pass in vain is
guilty to himself, to life, to fellow human beings. Therefore,
you must have a good listening ear to find the right, good,
and useful things to note, study and follow.
a good person, you have to know what to say. Say the right
things at the right time, in the right place, in the right
way, in accordance with morality, human conscience, and the
trend of the times. You must know how to act properly, help
protect the truth, know how to act effectively in the assigned
work, the profession you are pursuing to help the development
of the community and humanity.
In fact, the
number of people listening to too many things is wrong,
useless, talkative, irresponsible, and act contrary to
conscience and the law too much. Obviously, they need to be
In this world,
it is not easy for everyone to realize their mistakes or
sometimes they do not dare to affirm, do not dare to publicly
criticize themselves. There are cases where seeing defects,
accepting defects but not correcting them, or not actively and
determined to correct them.
Life is also
very strange. There are defects that, if removed, are only
legitimately beneficial to you, and of course also beneficial
to life. However, there are shortcomings that are closely
linked to personal selfish interests, so you may personally
know that you are wrong or guilty but do not dare to openly
correct it, or even deceive yourself to continue committing
Thus you can
confirm that the person who has really corrected his mistake
has truly won over his or her own enemy, a negative force that
is always lurking in their hearts and minds. To really correct
a defect is to remove the cause of failure, to determine the
right motivation for upcoming tasks, for daily actions, and to
complete the good form of a person who knows how to cultivate
and have practice. That will promise a steady succession of
success after success.
Many of you
keep trying to resist and destroy the enemy outside, without
seeing that the enemy is yourself. Please understand that the
enemy here is in a broad sense the cause of bad phenomena. You
often spend a lot of time, money, and effort, time, looking
for the cause anywhere. Find objective causes, meaningful
causes that justify that you didn't cause that defect, that
mistake, that sin, that bad external phenomenon. But you don't
see in your own mind there are dark corners of greed, envy,
That way of
thinking, that thought method has deceived you and put you to
sleep, making all deviations and mistakes keep sliding,
sliding forever without ever stopping.
In short, as a
human being in this world, every one of you has a dark corner
in your soul, the question is whether that dark corner is wide
or narrow, and you can recognize its shape, know how to
control it, know how to remove it. To be considered a person
who knows how to practice and cultivate, and has the style of
a Buddhist, you must note:
- Nothing in
life happens that doesn't make sense to you. Even if a bad
play, or a boring book, if you know how to watch it, and read
it, you can still draw useful things.
a mistake, even a serious mistake by someone, is more
meaningful to those who witness it and understand it. A
mistake caused by someone's incomplete preparation is very
useful for those who have limited morale and responsibility or
subjective thoughts, and general behavior. A mistake of yours
due to the application of the wrong technique is also very
beneficial for professionals who have not yet mastered the
profession. A mistake made by you due to a lack of good
coordination among other departments is also very useful in
terms of organization for those who play an executive role.
Those are lessons learned. Therefore, the idiom of the Orient
- One person's
mistake is another's lesson very accurate.
emphasizing this is by no means encouraging you to make
mistakes. Because one of your happiness requirements is to
make fewer mistakes and achieve more. Those of you who know
how to practice, have practice, are in good shape, are a
person who knows wrong, know right, and know in time to catch
all the changes around to fulfill your responsibilities well.
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