While making a living, in daily life, you have to face
reality through many aspects, pressures, and collisions.
Therefore, it is often difficult for you to avoid
disagreements in work, daily life, and relationships at home
and work. When there is an argument, you can get impatient
and get angry or talkative, and it's often not easy to keep
As a result, you get hurt or hurt others. You will even feel
that you yourself become painful, lose faith, and regret.
But the words were said like a bowl of water thrown away, it
was too late to regret it then. In times like this, what you
need to do is stay calm and let go of anger and delusion,
letting go of what is unnecessary, but makes you feel
Everyone knows that happiness is built on a foundation of
peace and serenity. This is the dream of a life that
everyone aspires to achieve. However, many of you are not
self-aware that you are making mistakes, or that you hope to
be right all the time. This is a great danger to your
relationships with people, and your social situation, and it
also brings you a lot of pressure and suffering. So the
- Suffering is at the heart, in order to be happy, you must
know how to get rid of what is not necessary.
Getting rid of such unnecessary things is, first of all, to
relieve all worries and make you happy. The latter is for
you to give yourself the opportunity to grow. Those who want
to be happy, let's start doing it right away, you will feel
the change every day!
Please note, giving up things you don't need is not giving
up everything, the essence of these two words is not the
same, and the results are also different. The choice to let
go or give up is how you decide whether your life is happy
Why do I say so?
Because when you know how to let go, you are the one who is
looking for the opportunity to grow. Whereas renunciation is
the act of a person looking for a place to hide. Letting go
is because you see yourself as more precious than the thing,
so let go of that thing. Giving up is because you can't let
go of things, and eventually have to give up on yourself.
Wise people know how to let go, fools only give up. In this
choice you must know the judgment:
- The reason people live not peacefully, not happy, the main
cause lies in three habits, if you are used to these habits,
please quit immediately:
1- Get used to exaggerating the happiness of others.
2- Get used to exaggerating your own suffering.
3- Get used to taking your own suffering compared to the
happiness of others, taking out your own shortcomings
compared to the advantages of others.
All of the above reasons come from holding too much of
yourself. In other words, it is an attitude of
dissatisfaction with yourself, wanting to get something,
wanting more without giving up what needs to be given up. So
if you want to get rid of the things that need to be
dropped, you should have a definite concept:
- Living in the world, being a human should not be too
strict. Work does not need to be perfect. Joy cannot be
enjoyed by all, so the treatment of people should be
understood in moderation. Tolerance towards others is to
give yourself some flexibility, a way back when needed.
There is nothing scarier in the world than doing things
while losing your mind, the consequences are inconceivable.
The ugliest face in life cannot be worse than an angry face,
for no one likes a dark or red face. The thing that people
hate most in the world can't be more hated than making an
angry face at the people around them, because it's even more
unsightly than fighting. So if you have a problem, you
- Learn to control yourself
You can't control the actions of others, and you shouldn't
even try. But you can control not only your actions but also
your thoughts. So it's better to be willing to give up
control over everything that has nothing to do with you or
other people. Accept things and people exactly as they are
and you will feel good.
- Know how to be wise or foolish at all times
Because no one likes someone smarter than them and
especially hates someone who thinks they're smart. Things
look objectively too complicated and change too quickly, no
matter how high your IQ is, no matter how diligently you
strive, the real realization Everything is very difficult.
Because even if you can grasp all the knowledge, it is
practically impossible. Therefore, it is better to maintain
a cautious attitude of humility, it is still better to dare
to admit to yourself that it is still a fool in front of
- Win or lose doesn't matter
Especially in times when arguments make no sense and are
unnecessary. Because the vast majority of people just want
to win, and no one wants to lose. At best, both sides win.
But if there has to be a winner and a loser, then you are
being a loser is the best option. Here is a story:
There was a monk going up the mountain to collect firewood,
and on the way back, he saw a young boy who had caught a
butterfly and was trying to bend his hands to keep it from
Seeing the monk, the young man said:
- Venerable Master, can you and I bet a game?
The Venerable asked:
- How to bet?
The young man replied:
- You guessed whether the butterfly in my hand is alive or
dead. If you guess wrong, the bundle of firewood will be
The monk agreed and guessed:
- The butterfly in your hand is dead.
The young man laughed and replied:
- You guessed wrong. After saying that, he opened his hand
and a butterfly flew up from his hand.
The Venerable said:
- Okay, this load of firewood belongs to you. After saying
that, he put down a load of firewood and walked happily.
The young man did not know how the monk could be so happy,
but looking at the load of firewood in front of him, he did
not care much but happily carried the firewood home. Seeing
his son return, the father immediately asked where the
firewood came from, so he told the story to his father.
Hearing his son's story, he suddenly said in an angry voice:
- Hey son! you are too bummed! Do you think you won? Even if
you lose, you don't even know you've lost.
Hearing his father's words made the son bewildered, not
understand anything. The father immediately ordered him to
carry the bundle of firewood on his shoulders, and the
father and son brought the firewood to return to the temple.
Seeing the monk, the father immediately said:
- Teacher, my son offended you, please forgive him.
The monk nodded and smiled but said nothing.
On the way back home, the young man, after a period of
wondering, finally spoke out the doubts in his heart.
The father sighed and said:
- That monk intentionally guessed that the butterfly was
dead, so you let it go and you won the firewood. If he says
the butterfly is alive, then you will strangle the butterfly
and you will also win the bet. Do you think that monk
doesn't know what you're calculating? The teacher lost a
bundle of firewood but won something much more valuable,
which is compassion. And you, you lost because you lost the
precious thing that is compassion without even knowing it.
The story may be very simple but it is a lesson for you in
life. Victory, defeat, success, and failure are things that
often torment people's lives. There are times when you think
you have won but in reality, you have lost more without even
- No justification
Pack your excuses and throw them away. Because oftentimes
you just limit yourself to what you do for a variety of
reasons. Instead of growing up, and improving your life and
spirit, you're lying to yourself, using all sorts of
excuses, which in 99.9% of cases, aren't real
- Shouldn't be busy
This is a concept that is difficult for most of you to
understand, but it is not something that cannot be done.
When you separate yourself from everything, you become more
peaceful, tolerant, friendly, and serene. That way you can
come to a place where you can understand everything without
suffering. It is a state beyond words.
Have the courage to let go of attachments to have a peaceful
and happier life.
What you need to do is give up far-fetched ambitions, and
let go of the excessive pursuit of fame and gain. Let go of
things that don't belong to you, let go of desires and
obstacles in your mind... Let go to be happier.
There was a merchant who had a lot of wealth, but he never
felt happy. When he saw the innocent smiling child's face,
saw the simple smile of the peasants, he felt miserable, he
- After all, what is the real joy? What do I need to do to
have that joy?
I'm tired of living around here, I want to go to a far away,
beautiful and mysterious place to find the joy I need.
Thinking and doing, he decided to leave, but he brought a
lot of money in gold and silver to find joy for himself. He
carried a heavy bag on his upper back on his way to find
joy, but he discovered that the farther he went, the more
tired he was, and the further away the joy he was looking
for was not what he imagined.
Going through hundreds of mountains and thousands of rivers,
because of the heavy bag he carried on his back, he was
tired all the way. He lamented shortly, and sighed, not in
the mood to enjoy the beauty of the foreign road. Not in the
mood to experience peace of mind like the cranes on the
clouds that people say.
One day, he was in a hurry to find a place to stop for the
night before dark, when ahead of him came the sound of
country singing. It was the singing of a farmer, his clothes
were ragged but his face showed a happy smile. Seeing this,
the merchant asked:
- You seem very happy, how can you be so happy?
The farmer replied:
- Yes, I feel very happy! I just came back from work in the
fields, my rice has just grown a little bit. On the way
back, I was lucky to pick up some firewood and mushrooms.
The farmer asked the merchant:
- And how do you feel so much pain?
The businessman said:
- I lack nothing, I have a beautiful wife, many children,
and many possessions. You see how many gold and silver
jewels I still carry on my back, but I always feel unhappy.
Can you tell me the secret to having fun?
The farmer smiled sincerely.
- What's the secret to having fun? Just put down the bag on
Listening to what the farmer said, the merchant was then
enlightened. He carried a lot of gold, silver, and jewels,
his back was bent, he was always worried on the road, and at
night he was afraid of being stolen. During the day, he was
afraid of being robbed. Materials are both many and heavy,
the whole journey is always tiring, where is the mood to
enjoy the beauty of the mountains, forests, long distances,
and strange scenes? If you keep worrying in your heart, how
can you be happy?
Actually, if you think about it, you and that merchant have
a lot in common. Many of you often feel that you are not
enjoying, or are unhappy, but you forget that the key to the
problem lies in controlling your ambitions.
This is a world where every second and every minute is
filled with ambition. Life is an ocean where every second
and every minute is filled with ambition. Every day, each of
you, every second, every minute, is concerned with countless
different ambitions. Ambition inside and outside of man.
Material ambitions, and spiritual ambitions….each one of
them overlaps each other that you never think is enough.
You say children are always happy because they think very
simply. The mind is simple, simply treating oneself and
others. Just thinking about the world, you will see that the
relationship between people is extremely simple. When you
have simplified, it is easy to achieve joy and satisfaction
with life. Satisfied with the life you will get joy and
happiness from within your own mind.
- Let go of what you don't need to have fun
Life cannot be without ambition, a person living without
ambition is like having no light in a dark night. But
ambition must have reality and possibility. Ambition needs
to be controlled appropriately, when you have certain
efforts, you can achieve the desired goal. Proper ambition
can help you feel happy and fulfilled in your life.
What you need to do is give up far-fetched ambitions, let go
of the excessive pursuit of fame and gain, let go of things
that don't belong to you, and let go of the desires that
hinder your mind. Just let go of unnecessary things, then
the luggage becomes simple. This world is inherently very
simple, but you have made it complicated by yourself. In
fact, by being simple yourself, you will see this world is
also very simple, simple yourself you will see other people
are also very simple.
When your hands are clenched together, you can't grasp
anything else. But if you let go of your hands, you will
find the light of the world in the palm of your hand.
Letting go of everything brings joy. Letting go of
unnecessary things will find your life joyful! Letting go is
not having too much ambition, you will feel much lighter.
Life is easy, life will be fun!
In life, you need to be happy, and ready to let go of things
you don't need, in your heart or in your surroundings.
Whatever it is, it will make you feel good. So don't blame
others for what they did or didn't do, and don't blame
others based on your personal feelings. Stop complaining
about everything around you right now. Unless you volunteer,
no one can make you happy, no environment can make you cry.
Remember, it's not your circumstances that control your
mood, whether you're happy or sad, it all depends on your
choices. Don't underestimate positive thoughts. Do not
arbitrarily criticize others and what they do. They are not
like you, each person has a different opinion, a different
thought, and do not impose your thoughts on others.
You are completely separate individuals, but you have one
thing in common, that is, you all hope to be happy and to be
understood by others. So give up guessing and try to please
others, because you can't do that. So try to open your heart
and remember, your brain only works when you leave it open.
The most stupid is arbitrarily, easily rejecting things that
you do not understand at all. So don't let yourself be
fooled. Choose from a selection of these two-in-one options,
and you'll be in good hands:
- Called friends, are your spiritual comforters;
- Called old people, who create your excellence;
- Called petty people, those who obstruct your virtue;
- Called nobles, who change your destiny;
- Called the Enlightened Ones (Gods and Buddhas), who lead
you to the enlightenment of your true nature;
- Called false (demons) are those who make you expand your
The logic of the great road is so simple, so simple that it
only takes a sentence or two to speak clearly. The great
things in life are difficult because they are simple.
Simplicity is not simply ignoring the matter, nor is it
simply childish, but wisdom at the highest level, a
manifestation of mature wisdom. The perfect is always
simple. Learn to be simple, it's actually not that simple at
Sit and watch the wind, watch the clouds disappear. It's a
state of invulnerability in the face of external
circumstances. Whether the clouds disappear or reappear, you
still keep the same sitting position as the original, you
still smile and watch what is happening without getting
caught up in it. To live is to live for the present, to
enjoy also in the present. Life is a journey, not an
endpoint. Always prepare a ready state of mind, and maintain
an objective and profound way of thinking to live fully in
the present. By letting go of what needs to be let go, you
will become balanced, tolerant, and peaceful. At that time,
you can understand and sympathize with people, things,
things around you, and even things that you have never
In short, please remember very well, you have your own life,
it's a right and it belongs to you.
Human life knows enough but stops to be happy because joy is
the ultimate in sadness. Should not tolerate lust,
tolerating lust into calamity. Flowers are only beautiful
when they are in bloom, long blooms will fade. If a career
does not need to be fully demanded, and merits do not need
to be redundant, there will be no internal variables and no
bad external circumstances. People in the world do not need
to ask for much, work does not need to be perfect, and enjoy
themselves to the fullest. A person must know when to stop.
In this way, to others a tolerance, to yourself a way back
- It is to give up what needs to be given up, and then life