DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
- BLESSINGS OF HUMILITY
By Nhat Quan
modesty. Understood this is a concession.
The bow is
reverent. This is implicitly respected for others, respect for
the living environment, and also for other people and the
environment with special attention and care.
dictionary sense, humility is a state of humility, modesty,
low self-esteem, the unimportant, unobtrusive, spirit of
respect, mutual respect, or submission.
is placing yourself lower in the eyes of yourself or others.
From a spiritual perspective, humility leads you to a higher
state of consciousness. In Buddhism, humility is the way to
not be drawn into the same conceited desires and achieve
enlightenment. You can see it as freedom from pride,
ignorance, and self-centeredness. Thus, when you yourself free
from these limiting qualities, you experience pervasiveness.
can lead to a transcendent state of ego integration. Some
experience the non-self state of consciousness from which they
are able to grasp the opposite sides and aspects of life and
go beyond the ordinary mind.
you see how to become compassionate and wise. Each of these
qualities leads to a deeper and more fulfilling connection
with the whole of life, as well as in the Spiritual realm.
Regardless of your beliefs, how can you practice humility on a
daily basis and still continue to accomplish your goals?
not mean hiding low self-esteem or self-arrogance guilt with a
layer of humility in behavior. Respect is affirming that other
people and foreign objects have the right to exist, have
specific features, and are inviolable. In particular, you and
people are equal, nothing more, nothing less.
manifests itself in words, gestures, attitudes, behaviors,
even in the way of walking, dressing, and in general in
people's daily lives. Being small, not to hide an inferiority
complex, but to truly feel small in the face of the vastness
and complexity of the universe, can be a sign of humility.
of humility is arrogance, excessive pride in yourself. Seeing
you taller, better than people, then arrogant, looking at the
sky with a lid, is a mind that limits your study and
cultivation. Because you think you are good, right, you
already come to that end, then you don't need to learn
anymore. A lack of humility is a great obstacle to learning.
You should know that humility is the root of happiness. The
ancients used to say:
- Three feet
above your head there is a god.
If you want to
avoid disasters, or wish for good things, you must first know
how to keep an honest heart, do good and avoid evil, and not
be arrogant to offend heaven with people. Once you know how to
be humble and respectful, so that heaven, earth, demons, and
gods have compassion, you can expect to be blessed. You know
humility and can learn and strive every day. Thus, not only in
terms of education and knowledge but also in terms of
morality, behavior in life is also constantly improving. So
all benefits come from the virtue of humility. Once you have
pride and self-satisfaction, even if you prosper, it will not
last, no one wants to teach you good things. So if you want to
be blessed, you must be aware of this.
person is a person with a large heart, able to tolerate
others, so the merit will certainly be vast. But the proud are
always easy to invites disaster, so the blessing is thin.
Therefore, as a human, you must definitely cultivate humility
with nature. Humility is a real, steady state of approach to
the earth. Wherever you are, even in the midst of crowded
cities and social activities, try observing the beauty of the
earth. You spend some time gazing at the sky, admiring a
certain great man, noting flowers, leaves, grass, and trees.
Be fully aware of the life that surrounds you.
As a Buddhist
on your way to learning, you sometimes have to ask yourself,
are you practicing humility in your daily life? Do you find
true happiness in a state of humility and a desire to serve
life, to serve others?
observe that where the land is low, there is water
overflowing. In the same way, people who live humble life
learn many good things, cultivate noble qualities, and perfect
virtues, and set an example for others to follow. Therefore,
you know that humility is always loved and respected by
everyone. You must humbly tolerate this virtue from the big to
the small, like a drop of water that fills a big pot. If you
know how to love yourself, if you love people, you should
accumulate virtue, avoid evil, do good, and practice the habit
of always controlling your mind when dealing with people and
in contact with things.
contrary, you are conceited, high tribute, even if you have a
career, only for a moment. Because it is not full of merit, it
cannot be kept for a long time! If you have sought fame,
fortune, and wealth without practicing humility, it is
difficult to achieve your wish! The more you know, the more
humble you have to be, even for those who are inferior to you
to receive and appreciate what's around:
There was a
young man who had learned a lot, and all of his classmates
knew that he had good prospects. That year, during the high
school graduation exam, he moved from the Central region to
Saigon and stayed temporarily in a temple to take the exam.
When the exam results were posted, he couldn't see his name,
he cursed the exam board, he thought that the exam board had
no eyes. Then an Abbot standing nearby laughed. The young man
immediately turned into a rage at the Abbot. The headmaster
- Maybe you
love to play, so you can't take the test.
The young man
became angrier and angrier, shouting:
- You never
knew me, how can you say that I can't do the test?
- I heard that
the most valuable test takers are in their mind, peaceful and
calm temperament. Now I hear you curse wildly, your mind, and
temperament is not peaceful at all, how can you do the test?
The young man
heard that suddenly admired, and immediately asked for
instruction. Master Chief said:
- Whether or
not you pass the exam is due to luck. If your luck is not
worth passing, even if you can do the test, it won't help. You
should change yourself.
The young man
- It's already
predetermined by fate, how to change it?
- Creating a
destiny is heaven, and establishing a destiny is yourself.
Efforts to do good, to accumulate negative virtues, you can
ask for any blessing.
- I am just a
poor student, how to do good deeds?
- Good deeds
and negative virtues all come from your mind. If you always
keep a good mind, you will gain immeasurable merit. For
example, keeping a humble, humble mind costs nothing. Why do
you not know how to self-review yourself, and scold the exam
from then on, the young man followed the teachings, tried to
correct himself, abandoned his pride, and kept humility. His
good heart is growing, his virtue is getting deeper and
deeper. Three years later, he dreamed that he went to an upper
room, saw a notebook with the names of the passed candidates,
in which there were many blank rows, and asked a person
standing next to him:
- The list of
names of candidates who passed this year's exam, why are there
so many names missing?
selection of people who pass the exam, in the afterlife, once
every 3 years is examined and compared, those who usually
accumulate negative virtues, do not make mistakes, are named
in it. Those blank lines are mostly people who in the past
deserved to pass the exam, but recently because of their poor
virtue, they have been removed. Then he pointed to a blank
line in the notebook and said:
- In the past
three years, you always know how to accumulate yin virtue,
keep yourself cautious, can be enrolled here, and hope you
know how to take care of yourself.
In the exam
that year, indeed, the young man passed the exam and was
ranked in the optimal row. Because of the above, he became
more and more convinced that:
- Three meters
above the head, there must be a god to examine.
Good or bad
things are definitely up to you, you need to know how to keep
a good heart, control all your actions, do not commit a single
bit of evil. If you are always humble, then heaven, earth,
demons, and gods will all help you, so you will have the
foundation to enjoy blessings. Those who are arrogant and
self-satisfied are short-sighted, and even if they have growth
and development, they can't enjoy it for a long time. People
with little knowledge and understanding, no one will lose
their blessings like that. What's more, humility is opening up
opportunities to learn from others, and being able to accept
people's good deeds, without limits. People who seek fame and
fortune are even more indispensable for humility. There is an
- Having the
intention of fame and benefit, you will satisfy; If you have
the will to be rich, you will be rich.
A person with
a will is like a tree with roots. If you want to establish a
solid reputation, you must always keep a humble heart, and
skillfully use countless means to do good deeds, and you will
naturally be touched by heaven and earth. Therefore, the
merits and virtues are all created by yourself. On the
contrary, pride and self-satisfaction will destroy merit and
2- The story
of the loss of blessings
In the temple
village, there was a man who was very good at worshiping. This
man was well versed in geography, placing graves, checking the
direction of good and bad houses, checking the date and time,
casting hexagrams to predict things very accurately, and doing
spells very well. So more and more people came to him for
help. People waiting at his house were long from inside to
outside, waiting from morning to afternoon to meet him. Seeing
so many people ask him for help, he became complacent. In
order to invite him, it is necessary to pay a lot of money and
must meet his increasing requirements. In the past, he invited
him to go anywhere, no matter what. Now you want to invite
him, you must have a car to pick him up, but the car must be
good for him to go. In the past, it was convenient to eat
anywhere on the road, as long as he was not hungry to finish
his work. Today, he said in advance on the way to visit this
restaurant because it is the most famous and delicious, to
stop by that store because he likes this. Those who don't know
what he means, won't be able to invite him next time. He also
likes to be complimented and flattered. Anyone who compliments
him on his talent, he likes it very much. He also has a habit
of telling stories from house to house that thanks to him, his
clients are now well off.
He relied on
talent, so he despised even the gods. With pride,
self-satisfaction, and disrespect for the gods, many people
complain. Going to pray on behalf of someone's family but his
mind is not mindful, and his blessing is thin, how can he pray
for someone's house? He kept relying on his talent, making
formal vows, preparing for the full ceremony, thinking that
was enough, but it wasn't. The heart is respectful to the
gods, to touch the earth and sky without, even if the
raspberries are high, the feast is full of no avail. As long
as you have a sincere heart, even a small offering will be
complete. Everyone respectfully called him a teacher, but he
couldn't understand that principle. He himself forfeits the
blessing and will surely fail later.
on, he performed ceremonies, and laid graves... for everyone
no longer effective, people gradually abandoned him. His house
began to decline, his wife died when she was over 50 years
old, and his children did not have a job... Then he defaulted
on his debt and had to sell the house and move to another
part of humility increases a part of merit. Arrogance and
complacency are a loss of blessings. Although humans are wiser
than all things and have high intelligence, whether you are a
very lucky person or a very ordinary person, you are really
very small in this universe.
above story, you see that the law of the universe works, of
cause and effect, anyone who is arrogant and complacent will
lose all his blessings, and the humble will gain. Everyone
appreciates the virtue of humility, but no one appreciates
invites harm, and humility brings gain.
learn from the humility, impartiality, and steadfastness of
the earth, for the earth can accommodate all things good and
bad. In this sense, the ancients used to say:
- Out of three
people traveling together, one of them will be your teacher.
If you choose
someone to be your teacher, you are not afraid to learn from
people below you. With the mind as a mirror, you must always
examine yourself. As long as you know yourself well, you can
bravely admit mistakes, frankly and honestly find out your
shortcomings, your lack of discord, or where you haven't tried
hard enough, so naturally, your space will gradually fade away
and gradually expand to infinity. That's why the ancients used
strictness to restrain yourself, and use tolerance to treat
others. Cultivate virtue, faithfulness, and humility without
gain confidence, humility, and the ability to be trusted by
others, thus becoming a person who does not lose the most
basic merit. Being obstinate, insisting on keeping your
opinions, and claiming you are right, all only create
obstacles and hinder your progress.
It can be seen
that if you are humble, you have a large heart and can
tolerate everything. If you have a generous heart, the
blessing will definitely be thick and wide. On the contrary,
if your mind is narrow, your blessings will be thin. You know
that being humble creates merit, and being arrogant will
create disaster. Therefore, as a person, especially a
Buddhist, you must definitely cultivate humility. Especially
in human-to-human communication, humility is a symbol of
politeness and courtesy; is a sign of modesty, and noble
humility. If you understand and practice the method of
humility, you will be able to break through and destroy the
giant ego, open up a progressive and clear life, and not lose
benefits in communication.
That is why in
Buddhism, every Buddhist practices bowing. Bowing is a sign
that your mind and the Buddha are communicating. Descendants
and juniors, when coming in front of their seniors and
dignified people, standing up straight, clasping their hands,
and bowing their heads in greeting, is an act of showing that
we need your attention.
Vietnam, students began to study, first taught to bow their
heads to the guru, and even close friends had to bow their
heads. Buddhist followers who believe in Buddha must first bow
to the Buddhas and Patriarchs. So in Vietnamese folklore,
there is a saying:
- First is
obedient, Second is knowledge
In life, if
you don't use the method of humility and contact with people,
and you can do whatever you want, you can't have a good life.
So, if you want to create a good relationship with the person,
of course, you need to know how to practice humility.
As once said,
humility is an expression of politeness and reverence. But in
Buddhism, the practice of humility is sometimes not completely
obligated to bow, but sometimes you need to hold your head
high in contemplation. Humility is also expressed by the pure
mind going around the Buddha, going around the stupa
signifying nostalgia and reverence, until the control of three
karmas, pure contemplation. Therefore, the Buddhist practice
of humility is very extensive. When it is time to bow, you
should bow, when it is time to raise your head, you should
raise your head; If it's time to go around, you should go
around and practice according to the right circumstances.
Again, humility is the road of communication, the bridge of
communication expressed through the mind to convey to the
other party nostalgia, mutual respect, and acceptance.
Master and respecting the Way are also traditions of Buddhist
disciples. With the Way and the Teacher guiding you, you gain
moral evolution, as well as beautify the religious culture.
According to the Majjhima Nikaya - 135.
young man, there is a woman or a man who, without arrogance,
pays homage to those who are worthy of worship and makes
offerings to those who are worthy of offerings. Because of
that good karma, you and your family will be reborn in a good
world, in a noble family
Humility is a
good and beautiful tradition of Buddhists that has been passed
down from thousands of generations to show respect for the
Three Jewels. This is the wholesome dharma that reduces one's
ego and is the way to bring about a rebirth to noble beings in
the future when the body breaks down and passes away. As you
have seen, there are children in childhood who have been
brought up in prestigious and noble families thanks to the
fruit of being reverent, humble, and respectful of the elders,
and religious leaders' dignified morality. And respecting
teachers, respecting religion is also a tradition of the
Vietnamese people, bringing moral evolution as well as
beautifying human culture.
To be raised
in noble families, most people want because this creates many
opportunities for a child to meet many favorable conditions in
life, work, success, and other areas. However, there must be
real merit. Achieve this, it also requires you to have a
process of cultivating and practicing humility. The humble
dharma gives people a lot of peace and gradually erodes the
high tribute, conceit is an unwholesome mind that brings a lot
of afflictions. You arrogantly consider yourself to be the
center of the universe, not knowing your exact location,
thereby being hated by many people and self-harming.
front of the golden body of the Buddha, as well as the monks,
the Buddhists bow to show their respect and gratitude to the
Dharma King because the Buddha is the noblest of the three
worlds. He is a great teacher of the gods and mankind of the
liberated wisdom mind.
is the greatest blessing in human life. Partially virtuous is
partly blessed and tenfold virtuous is also tenfold blessed.
That virtue is like an underground spring in the riverbed,
with immense power, but there are no ripples on the surface. A
noble person is not because of his title, but because he has
tempered his virtue so that the inside and outside are bright,
both mentally and physically radiating the aura of kindness.
thick virtue and great blessing are also really smart people,
everyone wants to make friends. Being around them, you feel
comfortable, secure, you feel respected, and trusted.
Therefore, people of thick virtue can make good relationships
with many people, thereby accumulating blessings and
advantages in everything, whether on the road to being a
person or working. In the heart always have compassion for
others, in all circumstances, always thinking of people is a
kind of benevolence. People who are kind to themselves always
think that they can do good things to help others, not
self-interest, or selfishness, through which you can see most
clearly a person with humility.
living a complicated and noisy life, when making friends with
others, you should choose to be friends with humble and kind
people, because then you do not need to think about how to
guard against them. A humble, elegant person is a person of
high virtue, a generous heart, and a person who has respect
for everything and everyone around. That reverence comes not
from fear, but from respect.
if you can take a step back and give in, you will see another
realm. To not be arrogant is to be humble, to take a step back
is to be humble, to say one more thank you, and to apologize
is also to be humble.
the cultivation of a calm state of mind, a kind of vast,
immense realm like returning to the inherent nature of
precious jewels, bright but not dazzling.
So, never be
complacent, and arrogant, and never think of yourself as the
number one master. Cultivate yourself a nobility from the very
quality of humility and repel lowliness. It can be seen that
those who walk in a hurry will often miss a lot of good
things. You may have squandered years of life or trudged along
the muddy, undulating road of life to seek fame, love, and
food. But many times it takes a lot of effort, and fatigue is
never achieved. But if you can stop for a moment, calmly peer
through the intricacies of urban sprawl, and find some peace
of mind. Then you will be able to easily feel happiness in the
simple life through the humble human way. That serenity,
peace, and thousands of gold are hard to buy!
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