DHARMA IN EVERYDAY LIFE
- ACHIEVING YOUR DREAM
By Nhat Quan
magical dreams, and when you dream, believe it will come
true. In a dream, what you see will foretell future
scenarios. (James Allen)
requests are not always met, but if you don't express your
wishes, you will never get anything. (Franklyn Broude)
must be clear about what you want. This is very important.
Every success begins with dreams and ambitions. Once you
understand what you want, it will be easier for you to get
it. You can't get what you want if you don't know what it
is. A lot of you don't quite understand what you want, and
sometimes what they want is far from what they deserve. So,
first of all, you need to understand what you want. Second,
consider whether you deserve it. Third, you must have faith
that you will achieve it. And finally, you have to have the
courage to show it.
dreams by writing down your wishes. Of course, this will
take a long time, possibly several hours, even days to
complete. But if you really want to get more than you want,
take some time to do it. When you do, write down what you
need to be, as specific as possible. This will help you be
more specific about what you want. It helps you reach deeper
into your subconscious and create a link between the true
desires that come from the heart. The point here is not
whether you think about the possibility of dreams, but
whether you like them or not. Once you understand that, you
have to use all the abilities, or methods, to accomplish
what you need to do.
way to accomplish this task is to find a quiet place, close
your eyes, and relax letting go of negative thoughts. All
you need to do is control your dreams. Hold on to your goal
as if someone was trying to take it away from you. All you
have to do now is take action to achieve that goal. It's not
an easy job, but nothing in this world automatically comes
easy. So perseverance will be your companion on the way to
achieving your dreams.
don't learn to blame. Don't learn to complain. Don't be
sulky or hostile. Do not seek excuses. Maturity is a gift
and this gift always appears in the process of striving for
society, there are many people who have successfully
practiced questioning skills and thereby achieved their
dreams. They have overcome many difficulties and always know
how to decide their own fate. Understanding the relationship
between giving and receiving, they have formed their own
dreams, and at the same time devoted themselves to life and
people with all their enthusiasm. And the secret to their
success is that they can always do whatever they see fit.
accomplish this task in the best way, you can close your
eyes while taking deep breaths to relax. Then slowly sketch
in your mind images and ideas of what you really care about
and desire in the following areas, such as:
02- Family &
and living space.
Furniture and other fixed assets.
06- Fame and
Spiritual and personal maturity.
Dedication to the community. etc.
have visualized and sketched images of what you want, open
your eyes and record them, in as much detail as possible.
This is the entire goal that you want to achieve in life.
Some goals require practice, study, and preparation. Others
require you to persist in your efforts for a long time. But
there are also some goals you can absolutely achieve right
now. Once you have completely achieved the goals listed, you
are the happiest person in the world. The word happiness is
mentioned here, in the spirit, I just mentioned above, the
word happiness is defined:
is what you dream, vow to do, the way you want to do it, and
your way of life.
is the result of the good dreams you have made that bring
joy to you and to others
happily is living a happy, comfortable life, everything is
always as you want it to be. But in order to be happy, in
addition to what you already have from your fulfilled
dreams, you also need to have or achieve peace. Peace both
matter and spirit. For humans, the matter is your body. Your
parents gave birth to you with a complete body and every day
the body is free from disease and pain, then it is your
blessing to have a good and healthy body. The spirit is the
mind. The mind that is not polluted by fulfilled dreams,
through which evil desires, no thoughts of greed, hatred,
jealousy, harming others, a mind free of afflictions and
worries, is what is real peace of mind.
life wants to live a peaceful and happy life. Happiness by
the usual definition is Getting What You Want in Life.
Depending on the situation and living environment, the
happiness needs of each person are different. As a person
born and raised in a slow-moving country, the wish is
different from the desire of a person born and raised in a
country with a developed and rich civilization.
When a child
was young, his dream was to always be protected by his
loving parents. Being a child of a poor family who can have
a full meal every day, have healthy clothes, and be lucky
enough to go to school with books is their happiness.
If you grow
up a little, someone notices, suits your eyes, you love
people and people love you, that is the overflowing
happiness of youth.
adulthood, having a solid career, abundant money, a house, a
car, having a husband or wife, and having obedient children
is the happiness of a successful person.
another kind of happiness. It is happiness to have power in
hand. You are so passionate about this happiness that you
can sacrifice other happiness such as family happiness,
money, wife, and children to buy the positions they want.
When old age
has good health, wealth, filial children... that is
happiness! For life in a fully materialized civilized
society, please do not discuss.
speaking according to worldly society. In Buddhism, the word
happiness is also divided into two types.
1- One is
happiness that depends on external conditions such as
position, money, house, car, spouse, and children. This kind
of happiness will not be sustainable because you yourself
will change, let alone things outside the body. The
experience of the ancients often said:
- In this
life, no one is rich for three generations, no one is poor
for three generations.
you that the house, the car, and the money will never be
yours forever. Health and beauty will over time decay and
become weak. The love between husband and wife or children
is also not as stable as you would like. Sometimes it's not
people who change, but you yourself. So happiness based on
external conditions will not be guaranteed because sooner or
later it will disappear, to replace disappointment, boredom,
and suffering. In general, this kind of happiness is caused
by many conditions, so it is impermanent, sometimes it is,
sometimes it is not, so if you consider it to be illusory
happiness or fake happiness, there is nothing wrong!
In fact, as
human beings, everyone has a need for happiness, but
happiness is difficult to obtain but easy to lose, leaving
only suffering and sadness.
kind of happiness is happiness that comes from your own life
values, from practicing, keeping the precepts, and keeping
your mind clean every day. In other words, you perfect your
personality, giving you a meaningful life.
What is a
It is a life
that always feels happy and joyful. That happiness is always
with you and does not lose over time. To have it you need to
practice according to the Buddha's teachings. You must
always keep the three karmas pure. Those three karmas are:
words, and actions.
three pure karma is daily you must keep the precepts:
precept about the body is not to conspire, accomplice, or
kill yourself or people. In a couple's love, live honestly
and faithfully, and do not deceive, be greedy, or rob other
people's property. Don't drink and be addicted to drugs to
avoid making your mind crazy
on words are not to say offensive words to hurt others, not
to put things to harm others, and not to slander, or scold
- The mind
must be cheerful and open, without anger or jealousy, that
is keeping the precepts of mind.
virtue pure, you do not hurt yourself and others, and you
have a peaceful and happy mood. This is your true happiness.
taught that in order to do these things, you must always
keep mindfulness in your practice. Mindfulness is the clear
understanding of every single thing, every thought... that
happens in the body, mind, or surroundings without you
having any judgment or attachment to that understanding. Due
to mindfulness, your mind does not run around and does not
think indiscriminately, creating a constant stream of karma
that makes you bear the afflictions. Living in mindfulness
is living in understanding and happiness.
In the Four
Noble Truths, the Buddha mentioned four truths that are
obvious to human beings: The Noble Truth of Suffering, the
Noble Truth of the Cause of Suffering, the Noble Truth of
Cessation of Suffering, the Noble Truth of the Path leading
to the Cessation of Suffering
- The Noble
Truth of Suffering shows that people born in this world
cannot escape suffering under any circumstances. The rich,
the nobility, the people with status or power, the
middle-class people who have enough to eat and clothe, or
the poor, the poorest in society... Having a body means
- The Noble
Truth of the Cause of Suffering is the cause of suffering.
The root of suffering is greed, hatred, and delusion.
- The Noble
Truth of Cessation of Suffering is to eliminate the causes
of suffering. If you get rid of the cause of suffering, you
will be free of suffering. End of suffering means you live
in the state of Nirvana. Nirvana is a peaceful state without
creating karma, which can be called in worldly terms
happiness. This happiness is the result of the practice of
Precepts, Concentration, and Wisdom. That is, you keep the
precepts of daily living for purity. If your body and mind
are pure, you have concentration. If your mind is calm, your
thinking will be clearer, that is wisdom.
- The Path
Leading to the Cessation of Suffering, are applied methods
to practice freedom from suffering. When you practice
diligently, and your mind rests in a state of deep silence,
you are truly happy.
happiness does not depend on any conditions, but on the
practice of self-improvement of your personality, that is,
in every passing moment, you perfect the three karmas of
mind, speech, and active motion. The results of the three
pure karmas make your mind light and peaceful. The state
where not a single thought of happiness or sadness arises is
not suffering. In the sutras, this state is called the
unborn state, Nirvana. You temporarily call the state of
true happiness compared with illusory happiness.
a religion of compassion and wisdom. You practice to reach
the goal of liberation from suffering and enlightenment,
that is, becoming a Buddha. Although you do not know when
you will be completely free from suffering and liberation,
you cannot say how long it will take you to become a Buddha.
But anyway, it is the dream or initial vow, the ideal that
you pursue from now on and for many lives in the future.
That said, it is not easy to achieve the goal in just five
or ten lifetimes. But when you have a dream, you will
achieve it, if you practice, you will have a day of
achievement, if you go, you will come. When you come, you
have achieved what you dreamed of.
the example of the masters and patriarchs, you cannot wait
until you are fully enlightened to help others. In this
present life, if you have mastered something through your
study and practice, you should also share it with everyone
to help everyone have an authentic happy life like you.
Turning back to the pages of the Buddha's history, you see
that the Buddha through six long years of ascetic practice
in the forest and for 49 days and nights sitting in
meditation under the Bodhi tree, the Buddha was completely
enlightened, became a Great Enlightened One, and attained
enlightenment attain the state of Nirvana in the life of the
world. But he did not stop there, he continued to save
sentient beings. After 49 years of teaching sentient beings,
he saved many people from suffering and led a peaceful life,
even though he struggled with a life of hardship and
suffering. The Buddha led many disciples to attain
Arahantship and escape from the cycle of birth and death
right in life like him. And they represented him to teach
sentient beings everywhere. When he was 80 years old, he
peacefully entered samadhi and passed away in the sala
forest in Kushinagar city, then his enlightenment was truly
wants to achieve their dreams, want to be happy, and of
course, more or less everyone is happy. Happiness comes to
each person depending on the living environment and life
concept, so the happiness of one person is not the same as
the happiness of the other. But there is one similarity,
which becomes a common denominator, that happiness is
impermanent, that happiness does not stay with you forever
but it will go away, and will give you suffering, and
affliction. That happiness you call illusory happiness,
because you do not create by your own practice efforts, you
do not return to yourself, your own mind, you do not wash
away the defilements caused by greed, hatred, and delusion.
so you just rely on external facts.
Buddhist student, with the Buddha's contemplation method,
you know that the phenomenal world never stands still, you
can recognize three imprints of this phenomenal world:
Impermanence, Suffering, and Non-Self.
You need to
think carefully and penetrate these three seals to change
your perception. Awareness of Suffering, awareness of the
method to end suffering clearly, to heal yourself. You will
not be attached to feelings of suffering or happiness. If
you want to attain the state of neither happiness nor
suffering, you can apply the method of Cessation,
Concentration, or Wisdom by gathering the six organs of
sense, not allowing the six dust or six sense objects to
attract you to cause your mind to waver by living in
Righteousness. Living in Mindfulness is always keeping the
knowledge of the object, observing the object inside or
outside the body as it appears with a mind that does not
judge, does not compare, and does not add or subtract
notions or prejudices of self. Only then will the mind be
quiet and not be disturbed by the waves of the world.
mind is completely still, you will automatically feel
comfortable, gentle joy will arise from that. The more you
practice, the stronger your concentration will be. The
stronger the concentration, the more wisdom will arise. As a
result, you will have a strong magnetic field like the
immeasurable quartet of magnetism: love, compassion, joy,
intuitive, super-intuitive, and know things beyond space and
time. You have a fearless argument, speak fluently, at the
right time, with the right word. You will be creative,
invent, and invent things that you have never known
before... You collectively call these things spiritual
wisdom or wisdom.
Understanding beyond the phenomenal world is the goal of
your Buddhist practice. Reaching this point is achieving
your highest dream, your own true happiness. If it's true,
it won't change. If you want to do that, then just start to
realize your dreams, from the lowest to the highest, from
benefiting yourself to spreading to your neighbors. That's
why you use the word Happiness Without Words or True
Happiness to refer to the unchanging happy and peaceful
state of mind of a Buddhist practitioner. Illusory Happiness
or Fake Happiness refers to the state of joy, and
excitement, but quickly changing and disappearing of those
who do not know how to practice and only rely on worldly
phenomena to have happiness.
In short, in
life, anyone who has a dream is a person with a direction,
and someone with a direction will sooner or later achieve
it. The moments of day and hours of accomplishment are the
happiest moments of your life. On the worldly side, perhaps
you will stop at the threshold of temporary happiness, but
it is different for you who have cultivated. You have
learned to know that happiness has both illusory and real
sides, but you are a lay person of course you cannot live to
let go of everything. You also need a loved one to support
and comfort you when your spirits are down. You also need
money for houses and cars, which are necessary for everyday
life. You enjoy this happiness, but you don't cling to it,
don't be greedy to embrace it, because you know that they
don't last forever with you, one day these things will fly
without wings go, then you don't feel too miserable.
spirit of not being greedy and attached, Buddhists use
wisdom to understand beyond the phenomenal world which is
the goal of Buddhist practitioners. Reaching this point is
achieving the highest dream, your own true happiness.
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